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a touchy subject...

somehow i connected with a gal from my college days. i remember her, but have to say we ran in somewhat different circles. anyways, i enjoy reading her blog. she makes me laugh as she relates her life in real and vulnerable tales. there are so many times i find myself saying, "that is just like me!" but i'm not quite crazy enough to haul my family to 52 zoos in 52 days!

marla has written several books and does a lot of speaking to women. i admire her frankness and passion for that touchy topic: sex. so a few weeks ago she started writing about a desire for a new book. then on facebook she started asking men to answer some questions. so i guess you could say she did her research and wrote it and will be releasing it as an e-book this weekend!! she won't give me the title yet, but did allow me to ask her a few questions because i'm curious, but i had to be willing to publish her answers on my blog. since most of you know i'm rather passionate about this topic as well i think it seemed quite fitting! were you able to catch that she wrote an e-book for men on the topic of sex????

so i asked...she answered:)


you have written books for women before, what made you want to write one for men?

I actually had no intention of ever writing one for men. Do guys even read books?? But then I got three e-mails in three days from three different guys all asking, "When are you going to write the husband's version of Is That All He Thinks About?" I've gotten lots of e-mails like that in the past but never all in a row, so I took it as a sign. And started writing. And I couldn't stop.


what was the most surprising thing you found while doing research?


Honestly, the thing that surprised me most was how many happily-married Christian guys struggle with porn. 130 guys filled out my (anonymous) Husband Survey, and they were so honest about their weaknesses in this area. The good news is that most of them want out of this trap. It's just really, really hard for them. I pray I was able to offer a big ol' ray of hope to these guys and their wives.


what do you hope men will take away from this book?


Just that--hope. I want them to know there's hope for their marriages, hope for their sex lives. I really, truly believe that so many husbands and wives could have fulfilling and intimate marriages (inside the bedroom and out) if they took time to understand each other and meet each other's needs.


how is your book different than other books on sex??


Well, I'm biased, but I think it's the best book on sex a husband will ever read. Here's the thing. No one wants to read a boring book. And I personally don't want to read something that's not funny. This book is witty and real, and I think guys will learn a lot without feeling preached at. I'm like an older (or younger) sister just helping my brothers out. I'll make guys a deal. You don't like the book, I'll give you your money back.

here's one other amazingly cool thing about marla.....her family is working hard to raise money to take their 3 girls to cambodia because that is where their hearts are. AND all the proceeds from this book will be going to that fund.

so friends....check her out, check out her book, and well, maybe you could by it for let's say father's day?

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