motherhood - the teen years

yesterday was mother's day. i've never really wanted to do much for the day. just kind of be. i do love to go to dairy queen though. it's kind of tradition.

i've recently been pondering motherhood. it is such an evolution. it really is. when you first become a mom you have this tiny babe and their world revolves around you. some days are hard. some days are pure bliss. some days - well....some days are better left unsaid.

then they grow up and turn into toddlers and preschoolers. they bring home cute mothers day poems and hand prints. you are still their whole world.

then they hit elementary. they get a bit more confusing to you. but now they make homemade cards and gifts and tell you how much they love you.

then you enter the preteen years. and if i'm honest, i wasn't sure that both my son and i would survive those years. those years brought more tears than i ever imagined.

and now i'm in the teen years.

i have two teenagers.

two.

and i wouldn't trade these years for anything!

a few moms have said they aren't enjoying these years. i get that. i really do. but i think this time of life is the best. don't get me wrong. i enjoyed the early years. but seeing these humans grow up into young adults. there is nothing like it.

they aren't perfect. i know that. and some days are rough. but i count it joy that my husband and i have instilled values into our kids and are watching them latch on to make them their own. each of them has unique qualities i love. my son easily makes friends

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